the trump tapes, rape pests, the value of consent, and the great regression of the right.

Warning: this episode is super-explicit.

After a cheers to Laurie for officially being a fully licensed therapist, we catch up. Hillary and Donald went head-to-head for one last, horribly uncomfortable, time and we can’t help but comment. Then we move on to the largest controversy of the election, the Trump Tapes, where Donald Trump is able to normalize the term “grab them by the pussy.” While the discussion could be about just how offensive this is, instead the ladies decide to pivot to the implications this has on the societial norms and human behavior. Crimson provides a defense of decent men, an argument well articulated in blog form on Huffington Post. While this election has been a nasty one, it may be a catalyst for men to finally stand up and defend decency towards women. Our discussion then moves on to trying to understand the line between appropriate and inappropriate behaviors and what the word “consent” really means. Crimson highlights an episode of This American Life, where they discuss college campus assults and you can see how the area between dating/parting and harrassment/assult can feel like a gray area for our youth and how education could help circumvent a major issue for both men and women on college campuses. Which brings us to the first thing we agree with Rush limbaugh on. He perfectly articulates the liberal vision of how to progress forward in the sexual murkiness with one word, consent. To wrap it all up, Crimson, once again, sells out for Michelle Obama and her beautiful speech in response to the Trump Tapes. This may be the only uplifting 28 minutes of the longest Presidential election, ever. And Laurie leaves the discussion on a hilarious note, with a call out for SNL’s Melania Trump music video, which is a spoof of one of Crimson’s past sell outs, Beyonce’s Lemonade.

how to reconcile perception vs. reality

The ladies catch up with a discussion of the Vice Presidential debate performances by Tim Kaine and Mike Pence. Laurie talks about Hurricane Matthew, and the flock of birds at risk, which totally canceled Crimson’s family vacation. After a sellout to the Anchor, OTR we discuss the repulsive, or enjoyable nature of oysters. Crimson gave the a try once, in [Rhode Island](], and finds it to be the most repulsive thing ever, but Laurie loves them, and they are delicious at the Anchor. Then we dive into discussion about how the concept of individual perception is difficult to negotiate with the realities or facts of life.

How do we come to terms with the fact everyone lives in their perceptions, but some have self awareness that others do not? Crimson wants to find the justice in it all, but Laurie keeps it real and points out some more practical implications. At the end of the day, you can’t change humans, you have to learn to accept them, regardless of their perceptions…well maybe. Crimson may disagree? On an related notes we discuss two awesome books the Year of Living Biblically, a book about a mans pursuit to live literally as the Bible commands. Also, Whats the Matter with Kansas, where Thomas Frank trys to explain why some voters vote against their best interest.

debate, debate, debate

Laurie gives us an all important update on the Brangelina drama, and then we dig into all things debate night. Crimson tries to buy a bottle of The Federalist Zinfandel, featuring her favorite founding father, Thomas Jefferson but instead buys the version with George Washington on, which is a total buzz kill and embarrassment. The ladies try to break down debate night by discussing the fashion, our favorite moments, and our overall assessment of the real impact of the debate.

Laurie sells out for the The Cincinnati Food and Wine Festival and Crimson shockingly sells out for John Oliver because of his brilliant way of putting the “Clinton scandals” in perspective of this election and her competition. Oh and check out Hillary Clinton on Between Two Ferns and let us know if it is as awkward for you as it was for Crimson.

i can't sit idle while watching innocent black men die

This evening, after a great weekend of family camping, I decided to catch up on the news. I watched an innocent, non threatening, black man get executed by police officers. The first video was of his wife filming the encounter. Not only is it disturbing that this black woman felt she needed to film the police encounter as evidence, but that she was genuinely scared that her husband, completely innocent and unarmed would be murdered. He was.

The second video was from the dash-cam, where you clearly see Keith Scott doing exactly as is asked; exiting the car and backing up. (Keep in mind his wife is telling him not to get out of the car- presumably scared he will be murdered by the police). You can see all videos here, for you to make your own assessment of the evidence. But all of the footage points to the execution of an innocent black man.

Now, I am not a court of law, nor an attorney, but I do not see any evidence of wrongdoing on the part of the victim. And since this all came out there is also potential evidence of a planted gun. If you watch the video, it seems as though the officer does throw the gun to the ground. We do not know if it was the victim’s gun, but regardless, we know there was unlawful handling of evidence. Here is a screen grab that shows the time stamps. It’s like one of those kid games “find the difference” between the two pictures.

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When I watch this, or any of these videos, my heart crumbles. The injustice I feel in my heart today is no different than the sense of injustice I felt when I learned of slavery and the proceeding injustices that the black community has had to fight through for the entirety of American history. But today is not a history lesson, it is real, it is current, and I continue to do what almost all of the white privilege community tend to do- absolutely nothing.

I can’t feel the pain of the HUNDREDS of women out there who have watched their husbands and sons be executed by the forces we fund to protect us, or the fear they feel every time their loved one leaves the house. My privileged life has lead me to fear things like cancer, weird diseases, the super bug- all things that happen as a matter of bad luck. All these things are equally unfair, death sucsk. But the root cause of the threats to the black community aren’t results of nature or natural existence, they are things that can be fixed with smart policies and big hearts.

I live in an America where clean water, access to food and health care are just a given. Me and my friends often joke about our #firstworldproblems, like hating our boss, shitty relationships, annoying coworkers, annoying kids, etc. But the black community doesn’t know this America. They don’t have the privilege of #firstworldproblems like the white communities. Instead their America is much more like Iraq, Syria, or any other third world country plagued with violence, gangs and drugs. They don’t have access to good quality education, food nor health care. And they don’t know who to trust because the government officials sworn to protect them are the ones that take their lives without consequence.

Here is the reality, blacks deserve the America that a majority of whites deserve. They are fucking Americans, and their labor (including slave labor) is responsible for building the infrastructure and history that makes America great. Their lives matter as much as any other life within our bounds, and yes, all lives matter, but black lives need to matter more right now because we have a crisis that is impacting their lives more than others.

America was built on the principle that equality and justice is vital to the Constitutional right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. If you believe in America, and you believe in the Constitution, you should be fighting to spread that equality to everyone, especially those that need it most. When we have a community suffering from systemic racism, socio-economic divisions and disadvantages in all matters of care, we should take note and recognize that we have a crisis. This crisis is bigger than Zika, bigger than ISIS, and vital to the core of our moral fabric as a society. And we must find a solution.

So here’s my question, as I sit in tears mourning the life of another black man mowed down by the police- what can I do to help? How can I make this better? How can I make the lives of the black community better? What could I, as an individual white woman, do? Because at this point, I am ready to dedicate my life to just that. I cannot, will not, just sit here and watch a generation of black men dying by the hands of police, or even each other. This must end, and it will only end when women and men, just like me (white) finally decide to take a stand. But my question to the world is, what does that “stand” look like? How do we progress forward? What steps are needed to start improving black lives?

Maybe the first step is protecting this country from spiraling backward and allowing Donald Trump to become our next President? But that isn’t enough. That isn’t going to fix the problems we currently have, that will only protect us from new issues. So If anyone has a suggestion of how one white girl can help save the lives of the black community, please let me know, because I can no longer sit idle and witness the injustice.

brangelina breaks our hearts, kind of, and then we discuss how to vote in a world where facts don’t matter

Last week Laurie was dying from the Scottish Plague and this week Crimson is dying from pink eye, but that doesn’t stop us from the much needed therapy session about the devastating news that Brangelina are now just Brad and Angie. We then move on to Crimson’s attempt to objectively evaluate candidates in a world that facts no longer matter. We discuss how we define human character and how the candidates stack up against the traits we look for when we are getting to know someone and trying to find the core of their being. Then Crimson sells out for an old but relevant mini-series Hatfield & McCoy’s. Through the mini-series we see the hate that war breeds, and the consequence of a divided nation.